What is being happy?

What is being happy?

After reading a recent blog post written by Leandra Medine, on being ” happy”. I started to think about the concept / term/ idea/ philosophy or whatever else you’d like to dub it.

To some, happiness could be having all your ducks in a row and knowing that your future is secure and steady, but to others it could be overall content – knowing that nothing is secure nor steady, that your life could change in a flash of light, and being okay and satisfied with that.

 

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But what if you don’t fall into either of these brackets? What if you don’t have your sh*t together, have no idea what you are doing with your life or where you want to take it. What if the sense of security bores the life out of you, so you’re constantly seeking adventure and chasing the element of surprise, never fully living in the moment? What if, being content is the furthest thing from true, because there is so much you know you can achieve and don’t know how to achieve it? Does that mean we aren’t happy? Potentially.

The paragraph typed above, is a clear description of what runs through my head when I think about my own life – the confusion, the ‘what if’s’ and overall discontent.

I keep thinking to myself, what is the trick to actually being happy – not eating chocolate on a Sunday night, buried under bed sheets whilst watching repeat episodes of Friends; but generally, overall happiness in how you live your life?

 

 

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To figure out the answer, I decided to do a little digging, figure out what worked for other people, what their daily routines were, and how that impacted their daily lives.

I started of with being grateful for the little things in life, that are generally and most of the time taken for granted. I proceeded to get back into a healthier lifestyle (exercising occasionally, and improving my diet), lastly I decided to focus my energy on getting things done – it didn’t matter what, as long as I wasn’t kept idle (tidy the house, write a blog post or two, pick up an extra shift at work- just something)

After doing all of this, although granting me short-term gratification, never seemed to solve the issue at hand – that sinking feeling in your chest when you have a moment to allow worry to creep it’s way back through your mind.

I began to think – well now what? I have tried everything that everyone is telling me and nothing seems to help – no matter what I try and how hard I try, the happiness always seems to fade.

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In all honesty, I still don’t think I can come up with a straight up answer, or theory to counteract this problem, but what I can say, is that my biggest problem has always been that, I can never live in the present. I am always either worrying about something that has happened, or that will, or can happen, and that’s where the problem lies.

So my ground breaking, but completely obvious solution, as well as a tip I picked up from Leandra’s post was that, from here on –  just allow yourself f to enjoy life and be happy – see the silver lining in everything ; don’t overthink it and just be ” it.”

 

 

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12 Comments

  1. September 3, 2017 / 3:21 pm

    Happiness varies for each individual, there are many factors that effect it, for example self-love, priorities, fulfilment just to name a few. I cosign the advice at the end, don’t overthink it as we can easily create problems out of nothing. Great post dear!

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    • theaugustclause
      September 4, 2017 / 10:59 am

      I agree 100% to what you’ve just said! It does vary and will always be different for everyone, which is why there can be no set solution! I’m so glad you enjoyed reading.Thank you for the lovely comment <3 x

  2. September 3, 2017 / 8:51 pm

    This is something I think about all the time! This post was so well written and relatable! x

    • theaugustclause
      September 4, 2017 / 11:00 am

      Really glad you liked it lovely <3 Thank you for the lovely comment xx

  3. September 3, 2017 / 8:54 pm

    this is actually really interesting! You know, there’s a theory by Aquinas that true ‘happiness’ is actually unattainable in this life – hence why we are constantly striving for happiness but never really get there. To be honest I think happiness is one of those things where its just a feeling of contentment or ease. Continuing to strive for things or want more doesn’t mean you are unhappy, but I think if you are constantly worrying, or comparing, or stressed, it’s fair to say you’re not as happy as you could be. Really loved this!

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    • theaugustclause
      September 4, 2017 / 11:07 am

      That’s really interesting – I haven’t heard of that theory before, but will definitely be looking into it; but from what you’ve mentioned about it, I for the most part I agree with it. I think we try and make ourselves as happy and content as we possibly can, but I think there is so much going on in the world, that it is almost impossible to be “truly happy.” Happiness is definitely something that is subjective, and can come in the form of so many different things, but I second that it does come down to contentment and ease at the end of the day. I love comments like these where you can learn something knew, thank you <3 x

  4. September 6, 2017 / 12:57 pm

    Very interesting blog post! It really made me think 🙂 I enjoyed your writing about this! I think being happy is appreciating the little things in a person’s life (being grateful) and when someone isn’t in the right frame of mind, then of course that would be thrown out of the window. Because all there would be left is the mundane moments and nothing exciting. I have learned that talking to God and praying can help in happiness. I don’t want to come across as being preachy, but I remember being in a dark head space and nothing seemed like it would get me out of it. Turning to God and having faith does matter so much in overall happiness.

    • theaugustclause
      September 8, 2017 / 1:03 pm

      I am so glad that you enjoyed reading this <3 It was something that I have had on my mind for a while and really wanted to put it out there for others to debate. Honestly, I completely agree with you, when it comes to God and praying - I've found that it does help put me in the right frame mind too, from going through a similar experience to yours. Really enjoyed reading your comment <3 x

    • theaugustclause
      October 5, 2017 / 9:09 pm

      thank you so much Rochelle <3 Really glad you enjoyed it xxx

  5. October 6, 2017 / 8:33 pm

    Happiness is definitely difficult to define and it’s very subjective but I loved reading your views and thought processes on it!
    PS. love your photography in this post xxx

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    • theaugustclause
      October 8, 2017 / 4:22 pm

      It truly is so different to everyone, I guess that’s why it’s such an enigma. I’m so glad you enjoyed reading it <3 thank you for the lovely comment sweets xxx

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