After reading a recent blog post written by Leandra Medine, on being ” happy”. I started to think about the concept / term/ idea/ philosophy or whatever else you’d like to dub it.
To some, happiness could be having all your ducks in a row and knowing that your future is secure and steady, but to others it could be overall content – knowing that nothing is secure nor steady, that your life could change in a flash of light, and being okay and satisfied with that.
But what if you don’t fall into either of these brackets? What if you don’t have your sh*t together, have no idea what you are doing with your life or where you want to take it. What if the sense of security bores the life out of you, so you’re constantly seeking adventure and chasing the element of surprise, never fully living in the moment? What if, being content is the furthest thing from true, because there is so much you know you can achieve and don’t know how to achieve it? Does that mean we aren’t happy? Potentially.
The paragraph typed above, is a clear description of what runs through my head when I think about my own life – the confusion, the ‘what if’s’ and overall discontent.
I keep thinking to myself, what is the trick to actually being happy – not eating chocolate on a Sunday night, buried under bed sheets whilst watching repeat episodes of Friends; but generally, overall happiness in how you live your life?
To figure out the answer, I decided to do a little digging, figure out what worked for other people, what their daily routines were, and how that impacted their daily lives.
I started of with being grateful for the little things in life, that are generally and most of the time taken for granted. I proceeded to get back into a healthier lifestyle (exercising occasionally, and improving my diet), lastly I decided to focus my energy on getting things done – it didn’t matter what, as long as I wasn’t kept idle (tidy the house, write a blog post or two, pick up an extra shift at work- just something)
After doing all of this, although granting me short-term gratification, never seemed to solve the issue at hand – that sinking feeling in your chest when you have a moment to allow worry to creep it’s way back through your mind.
I began to think – well now what? I have tried everything that everyone is telling me and nothing seems to help – no matter what I try and how hard I try, the happiness always seems to fade.
In all honesty, I still don’t think I can come up with a straight up answer, or theory to counteract this problem, but what I can say, is that my biggest problem has always been that, I can never live in the present. I am always either worrying about something that has happened, or that will, or can happen, and that’s where the problem lies.
So my ground breaking, but completely obvious solution, as well as a tip I picked up from Leandra’s post was that, from here on – just allow yourself f to enjoy life and be happy – see the silver lining in everything ; don’t overthink it and just be ” it.”